Here are answers to some frequently asked questions with regards to Bashful and Bold.  If you have any other questions, not covered here, please do not hesitate to ask us. We want to make sure you’re both very comfortable before you even come out to your first event.  You can reach us by phone or the Internet.

May we visit the club as non-members?
What are a few of the benefits of membership?
Do we have to be a married couple to join Bashful and Bold?
Are our names ever given out?
Do we have to be swingers to attend Bashful and Bold events?
Can you help us contact someone we’re interested in?
Do you provide a non-smoking area?
Is there a dress code at Bashful and Bold events?
How many people attend Bashful and Bold events?
What is the age range of your members?
How long do the events last?
Can I get more involved with the club?
I am single and unattached. Can I join Bashful and Bold?
Can a woman ask a man or another woman to dance?
Can we be up front about our sexual desires?
How do we deal with a couple who comes on to us?
Don’t allow yourself to be coerced into any situation!
What happens if someone does not take "No" for an answer?
We want to meet other couples, but we’re very shy.
You're club hosts are here to answer your questions!
A reminder to very EXPERIENCED PlayCouples.

May we visit the club as non-members?  No, we are a membership-only club ensuring your complete privacy.  Our initial Affiliate membership is designed to accommodate couples who wish to "check it out" first or perhaps come to only a few special events per year because of distance or lifestyle.   This will avoid a large outlay of cash until you are sure the club is exactly what you are looking for.  New couples must pre-register on-line at our website (click on "registration" in the index) or by phone.  We guarantee 100% confidentiality of information.  We never sell, rent, trade or share your personal information without your express written consent.  You will not receive mail from other companies by registering with our club.

What are a few of the benefits of membership?  We can start by assuring you of your privacy in a club attended by many like- minded couples.  This permits a great deal of latitude with regards to self expression.  There are advantages for each membership package which you can check out by selecting "membership" from the main index. In brief, as "charter" members you’ll SAVE $10 per couple every time you come to one of our Saturday dances.  "Diamond" members save even more.  You will receive a laminated special membership card which is recognized at all NASCA* affiliated clubs, a FREE subscription to our club newsletter, Brazenly Bare, price advantages when shopping at selected stores, referral services and the privilege to place a FREE classified ad in the club’s newsletter.

Do we have to be a married couple to join Bashful and Bold?  As a committed couple you’ll be welcomed whether you’re married, dating, living with your significant other, or going steady.   Today’s world has changed dramatically from just a few years ago. Marriage is not a condition of belonging.  The club is attended primarily by male/female couples.  You must be of legal drinking age in Ontario and both of you need to know what the club is all about.

Are our names ever given out?  No, your name, address and phone number are personal and kept 100% confidential.  We never sell, rent, trade or share your personal information without your express written consent.  You will not receive mail from other companies by registering with our club; EVER!

Do we have to be swingers to attend Bashful and Bold events?  No.  Many couples who have joined are just looking for a little extra excitement to spice up their own monogamous relationship while others are active in a swinging lifestyle.  Some couples are exhibitionists, others are voyeurs, some are into fetish wear.  Yet they all share one thing in common.   They are all open minded, fun loving, courteous and tolerant of everyone.

Can you help us contact someone we’re interested in?  Yes, we can.  If you meet someone and you wish to contact them, we can arrange it by calling the other couple on your behalf and providing them with your phone number.  In this way they have the option of returning the call or not.  We get these requests all the time so don’t feel shy about following up and contacting someone you’ve met at an event.

Do you provide a non-smoking area?  We are a smoke-free club and operate 100% in compliance with the City of Ottawa's No-Smoking bylaw.  Outdoors seems to be the only option these days.

Is there a dress code at Bashful and Bold events?  Yes. Clean!!! with an emphasis on sexy, provocative, and as erotic as you dare.  If this just does not work for you, then smart casual.  Ladies dressed in party attire or cocktail dresses is not uncommon.  Many couples look to the theme suggested in the event calendar and newsletter as a guide.  The main thing to stress is to dress for yourself and, as such, dress comfortably.

How many people attend Bashful and Bold events?  Our Saturday night dances are attended by 25 to 40 couples.  Wednesday and Friday evening events are typically attended by 5 to 20 couples.

What is the age range of your members?  Although Bashful and Bold is open to everyone of the legal drinking age in Ontario, most of our members are men and women in their thirties and forties. We do have many members in their twenties and also fifty plus.

How long do the events last?  Saturday events and special theme parties can go to two or three in the morning.  Wednesday and Friday events will generally end at 1-2 a.m..

Can I get more involved with the club?  Yes, absolutely.  We’d love to have your special talents, skills or know-how!!!  We have a special group of members who are "Goodwill Ambassadors" of Bashful and Bold.  If you’re interested we’d be delighted to talk to you.  Just call us.

I am single and unattached. Can I join Bashful and Bold? Unfortunately No.

Can a woman ask a man or another woman to dance?  We recognize everyone as sexually equal.   That means that women should and do feel comfortable "making the first move".

Can we be up front about our sexual desires?  Yes, by all means be up front.  It is essential that everyone know up front what they are getting into.  You could save everyone from a potentially embarrassing situation later on.  For example, if you are bi and if this is important to you, please make sure that you have discussed this with your new found friends.  Another example might be that you expect condoms to be used and your new found friends are totally against it.  Unlikely, just an example :o)  Find out in advance as much about everyone’s limits as possible.

How do we deal with a couple who comes on to us? Be flattered.  If comfortable with them make sure you're up front with them as to what you are looking for.  If not comfortable, just say "NO, thank you".  Respect another couple’s right to selectivity.   We are all great people, but for one reason or another we may not appeal to another couple NOW.  A "No" today may not mean a "No" tomorrow, but don’t be pushy about it.

Don’t allow yourself to be coerced into any situation! If a couple or a situation make you feel ill-at-ease, perhaps it’s time to invoke the rule of "No thank you".   You should never feel pressured into doing anything you are not comfortable doing.   You’re here to have fun.  Being coerced is NO FUN and rarely ends with a positive note.  So if anyone persists, talk to the host couple.

What happens if someone does not take "No" for an answer? If a couple or a person will not take no for an answer, you should immediately tell the host or hostess in charge about this.   They’re trained to deal with this in a friendly, unobtrusive manner without causing you or the person bothering you any embarrassment.

We want to meet other couples, but we’re very shy.  As a group, couples are friendly, outgoing people.  But it is a two way street.  You should introduce yourself to the others there.  If you’re unusually shy or if the group appears cliquish, ask your host to make some introductions for you.  That’s why we’re here.   And remember, most couples have come to meet other new couples.

You're club hosts are here to answer your questions! Even if it seems to be a minor point, you won’t know until you ask.  Your club hosts are used to fielding questions on many different topics including sex-related subjects from the traumatic to the trivial.

Respect other people’s right to privacy and be discreet. What you see or what you heard and where you saw it is privileged information.  Don’t abuse this privilege.

A reminder to very EXPERIENCED PlayCouples. Take some time with new couples.  A friendly chat over a drink or a cup of coffee goes a long way.  Remember, once upon a time you were new to all this as well.

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